Let’s find out the old wedding etiquettes that transform into new ones, some traditional things do need to change as time goes by. And the list is as follow :
The Wedding Expenses
Old : It’s the bride’s family that usually pay for the wedding expenses.
New : Both family share the wedding expenses, even small affair can make quite significant cost, so the family settle this in different ways. Even the couple themselves can pay for the cost. It is important for both families to discuss the budget early to make sure everything goes well.
The Bridal Bouquet
Old : The bouquet carried by a bride must be white or very soft color.
New : The bride can pick and choose any color she wants, such as : lavender, roses, any color that match the bride’s dress, or perhaps the bride favorite flowers. All colors are acceptable.
Wedding Dress Code
Old : Guests shouldn’t wear black or white to a wedding.
New : You can wear any color just as long if it’s white, it doesn’t look like wedding dress, you don’t want to beat the bride, they are queen for a day. If you wear black, don’t dress like you’re going to a funeral, consider the time of day too, location, and some rules made by the wedding couple.
Bridesmaids and Groomsmen
Old : The limit of bridesmaids and groomsmen should not be more than six.
New : Bridesmaids/groomsmen have the responsibility of seating guests at the ceremony, so if you’re going to invite a lot of guests, you need more than six bridesmaids/groomsmen. It is okay to have groomsmen more than bridesmaids.
Choose The Mother’s Dress
Old : The grooms’ mother shouldn’t choose the dress before the bride’s mother has chosen hers. And the mother of the bride should inform the mother of the groom of its styles so that they can match the dress.
New : They can pick the dress they like just as long they feel comfortable with. They don’t have to match the dress with each other but it is common to discuss this each other, consider the time of day and the formality of the wedding.
Thank You Note
Old : All guests will receive hand written thank you note for their gifts.
New : You can still use hand written thank you, write personal notes for them. But commonly you give small gift for them in return e.g. : small photo frame, scented candle, wood/metal chopstick, etc.
Wedding Presents
Old : Household appliances are usually come as wedding presents.
New : Any gifts will do, just choose the gift that suit the personalities and the styles of both the bride and the groom. Gift registries are now the norm, it’s really handy for the guests that don’t really know about the couple. Non traditional registry may come up, don’t be surprise, mortgage payments, honeymoon in Paris might in the list.
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July 20th, 2007 at 4:42 pm
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July 20th, 2007 at 4:51 pm
As a recently married man I can honestly agree with your list. You nailed it!
July 20th, 2007 at 5:03 pm
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July 20th, 2007 at 7:27 pm
Weddings are up to the individual these day’s. Unless you have fortune, most people are choosing the court house and a nice reception. To save on cost, I ended up doing almost everything myself and was so tired at my wedding that i didn’t even want be there. We didn’t have parents with money so I had to work double shifts and a 2nd job to help my husband pay for it. We wanted it as perfect as we could afford , but if I had it to do all over again I would be at the court house in my party clothes and call it a day.!!!!
July 20th, 2007 at 11:09 pm
No, you still should not wear white to a wedding.
July 21st, 2007 at 1:03 am
@Laurie Breneman, thanks for your opinion, please excuse my english, since english is not my primary language here, but I’ll do my best to write better grammar and sentece structure, perhaps you can be my mentor ?
@Jade Smith, yes, wedding could cost you a fortune, that’s why most of the wedding ceremonies these days are held for families only (small party).
@Diva, you think so ? thanks for your opinion on this matter, really appreciate it.
July 21st, 2007 at 1:02 pm
Some interesting and possibly useful information is provided, especially for people that are sensitive about current American cultural standards for these affairs (which end in divorce perhaps 50-60% of the time anyway!). Still, the article should certainly have been more carefully written as it is rife with notable grammatical errors and some awkward sentence structures. Singular form is sometimes substituted for plural for example, and worda that were needed to complete sentences were sometimes omitted altogether! This is a formal article, and like a wedding, there are those who care to experience good form, although I am not personally as attuned to weddings, except for the all too prevalent decibel overload, often making it hard for people to talk to each other…but that’s another problem that affects Bar&Bat Mitzvahs, parties of all kinds and common, but clueless restaurant culture where it exists. Excessive noise is another, highly important aspect that has changed considerably over the years but wasn’t addressed here. Many perticulars or examples of cost, such as a range was brushed over completely, keeping the article quite thin. Some of the text is good enough, but the writer was cluelessly and clearly careless about a subject in which the emphasis is on precision and accuracy!
July 21st, 2007 at 1:17 pm
I noticed at least two SPELLING ERRORS IN MY OWN commentary above!
Accordingly, I’ll fine myself a couple of wet-noodle lashes”!” The touch-pad is incredibly hyperactive and I need to replace my reliable mouse’s batteries so I can edit more accurately…”perticulars should be “particulars” and “worda” should obviously be “words”. I’ll go fix my mouse and keep practicing my typing…it’s starting to get back to the old high school standard achieved when I was taking a typing class, but I never could have imagined the extent to which it would someday be so useful. Sometimes we do things in the present without realizing the impact, hopefully for the better, on our future endeavors.
July 22nd, 2007 at 10:10 am
Hello Lee, thanks for making so long comments, I’m an open minded person, so every critics are fine. you said that “Many particulars or examples of cost, such as a range was brushed over completely, keeping the article quite thin.”, perhaps you want to make the article thicker ? I’m more than happy to publish it here …